Nytworkshop: Andy Buru on Surrender

woman holding the head of a man

Do you want to learn to use rope as a tool in your intimate relationship(s)? Are you ready to explore how rope bondage can increase intimacy and bring you closer to both yourself and your partner? Do you long for surrendering in total trust, or to get to know your will for power? 

Welcome to a beginners workshop in tantric rope bondage!

This workshop is an exploration of surrender. During this weekend you will have time and space to go deep, to explore and play. You will learn the basics of rope bondage, but more importantly you will learn the fundamentals for building trust. To surrender is to let go and fall, trusting that one will be caught, by life, by love, by wonder, by another. Surrendering brings great pleasure when one learns to let go of controlling the body, the emotions, the ego and devote oneself to something greater. It’s applicable in lovemaking as well as in life in general. But unfortunately, there is an overvaluation of power in today’s society, and everyone is fighting for it, while surrender is undervalued.

The beginners level is suitable whether you have some or almost zero previous experience or practical knowledge with rope bondage. You may be asked to spend a couple of hours reading a text or watching an online tutorial beforehand. More focus is on going slow and establishing consent within clear instructions and exercises. The goal is to hold your hand tightly but still allow little detours and personal journeys as you are introduced to the subject. You don’t have to know beforehand what you like and don’t like. You need no desires or fantasies. Instead, the teaching style will provide you with a smorgasbord of experiences to try, of which some you might love and others you might hate.

You can sign up with a partner, or you can come alone. I encourage everyone to change partners for some exercises, but this is your choise, and you can work with only one partner if preferred.

Where: Frognerseteren friluftssenter. 7 min walk from Frognerseteren t-bane, or parking outside. 
Do you need a place to stay close to the venue? Drop us a line (post@nytfestivalen.no).

Saturday 29.4: 10.30-18.00
Sunday: 10.30-18.00, light supper and social hangout/practising for those who want to
Monday: 10.30-14.00

What to bring: sheet, blanket and pillow to sit on, water bottle, pen and paper, lunch

Andy Buru is a student of theatre and tea, a medical massage therapist, a former organisational coach, a conscious kinkster, and a teacher of European and Japanese rope bondage. Living in Stockholm, Sweden and working around northern Europe. In his work, he aims to create magical rooms where people can rest, heal and grow. His tools, spirit and experience springs from neuro-semantic team building, medical massage therapy, European theatre, and Japanese rope bondage.

“Surrender touches upon masochism, physically enjoying endorphins rushing through the body and emotionally letting go of shameful limiting beliefs. The basic idea I learnt from Zen Buddhism is that bliss emerges when we stop fighting and accept life as it is, and then there is no suffering. Before psychology considered masochism a disease, religion thought it to be the cure. And I think there is something to that when it’s conscious and consensual. In my experience, anyone can enjoy it, or at least find it meaningful when it’s slow enough and well-balanced between safety and bravery.

Surrender belongs to the feminine aspect of the neo-tantric polarity. Still, I believe it’s essential for everyone of any (and no) gender to incorporate it into themselves as self-development and passion for lovemaking. While teaching surrender, I also indirectly teach how to hold space for anothers’ process of letting go. Participants describe it as intimate, vulnerable and trusting. And it makes them more resilient to the hardships of life.”

Pictures from previous workshop


Tea, coffee, snacks included.